What is Bullying? How do you know if your child is being bullied at school, a social club, Sunday school, a youth club or even around where you live or the kid next door?
A bully wants to hurt the other person (it’s not an accident). A bully does or says the same things over and over again. Bullying is about using power over another person. There are four main kinds of bullying.
Physical:• hitting, shoving, kicking, spitting on, beating up on others
• damaging or stealing another person’s property Verbal:• name-calling, mocking or hurtful teasing
• humiliating or threatening someone
• making people do things they don’t want to do Social: • excluding others from the group
• spreading gossip or rumours about others
• making others look foolish
• making sure others do not spend time with a certain person Electronic:using e-mail, cellular phone or other forms of social media and text messages to:
• threaten or hurt someone’s feelings
• single out, embarrass or make someone look bad
• spread rumours or reveal secrets about someone
So, bullying is the physical or psychological intimidation that occurs repeatedly over time. Bullying can be overt (i.e., teasing, hitting, or stealing); boys are most often overt bullies, or, Bullying can covert (i.e., spreading rumours or exclusion); girls are most often covert bullies.
So now we know what it is, how do we know if it is happening? see tip #3
When does a parent know whether or not their child is being bullied?
Bullying is a repeated form of attack whether verbal, physical or cyber bullying. Random name-calling and teasing are just that – random. Yes, parents need to be aware that little ‘Johnny’ was teased at school today, but that does not mean you have to go racing up to the school.
“Has X done this to you or someone else before?”
If NO then it is probably an isolated incident and unfortunately part of every child’s growing pains. Usually, in these cases, the children have long since forgotten what happened and moved on.
Jann and Polly visited the Angel of the North whilst on holiday this year. It is an impressive structure, it is 20 metres high (65ft) and has a wingspan of 54 metres (almost 175ft). It was commissioned by Gateshead Council to attract tourists to the North and has been seen by 33 million people annually since it’s construction. Makes one feel quite insignificant when you stand at the feet of an angel.
The most wonderful thing about being a Children’s Author is that you have every excuse under the sun to never grow up. Well, that’s my excuse and I am sticking to it.
I recently attended the Edutech Exhibitions at the Sandton Conference Centre with Evadeen Brickwood, a friend and fellow and author. Afterwards, we had spent the morning wandering around the stalls we headed back towards the car, when low and behold, a toyshop jumped right out in front of me.
Now, those who know me well, know I have a weakness for toy shops and bookshops. It was just too much, I had to go in – for research purposes, I explained to Evadeen, who having experienced me on a book tour to the Eastern Cape, knew to just go with the flow, I love how she just does that.
Well, as we wandered around checking out the toys – for research purposes, of course, I spotted a mechanical Polly, actually I think she spotted me because as I passed her she started to chirp, and talk, flap her wings and raise her crest. I WAS IN LOVE! Only one slight problem, a R1700 (£100) price tag – Owch. Never mind, nothing can replace my Polly.
Oh and I think the 50+ was for the suggested appropriate age – JUST RIGHT FOR ME ha, ha, ha. Maybe next time Mechanical Polly…
Sometimes we also need some downtime, so after visiting the Edutech Exhibition and seminars, Evadeen and I walked back through the Sandton Shopping Mall, near Mandela Square. Unfortunately for Evadeen, as we crossed the bridge between the Conference Centre and the Mall, Jann spotted one of the exhibit booths slightly ajar and empty. Well the temptation was just too much and i decided to play at being a mannequin for the day with the following results:
Evadeen you were a great sport taking the pics, and don’t worry we only had our name tags on so that the cameras can identify us ha, ha, ha.